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Friends Without Benefits: Decoupling Is A 21st Century Ddea Whose Time Has Come

Effectively, decoupling is the dissolution of a marriage in the conventional sense, but with a twist. For it to work, a lot of social, psychological, economic and judicial thought has to go into it.

Friends Without Benefits: Decoupling Is A 21st Century Ddea Whose Time Has Come

Miriam Koshy is a Goa-based curator and artist. The image is from (Liminal) asylum, a stop-motion film dwelling on the ‘between’ and ‘betwixt’ state of being that one enters into during metamorphosis
Friends Without Benefits: Decoupling Is A 21st Century Ddea Whose Time Has Come
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2022-01-14T16:21:43+05:30

Deepika Roy and Shome Banerjee have been “decoupled” for the past two years. For the Delhi-based journalists, it does get a little difficult sometimes to present themselves as a couple in public. But most of their close friends are aware of their marital status. It may appear complicated to some, but not to them, especially why they chose this route over divorce—they have a five-year-old special-needs child. Deepika says, “My husband may not be the perfect partner to me, but he is a great father. Going for divorce, we thought, is not going to be a bright option, because it’s going to be more traumatic for my child. Bringing her up single handed wouldn’t be easy on me, and our daughter needs both of us and loves us dearly. So, we live in the same house, but lead separate lives.”

Both Deepika and Shome have also come to an understanding over fin­ances, because both of them are working and there is a lot of expenditure in bringing up a child. Deepika explains, “When I’m not at home, my husband takes care of our daughter. When he is not around, I take over. There are times we sit together as a family, but it is for the sake of our daughter. We have dinner together too. Not that I don’t enjoy the so-called family time, but my husband and I don’t share any emotional or physical connect. The only connection is our child.”

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